For as long as I can remember, I have suffered from a skin condition called Psoriasis, which can flare up at any time.
Psoriasis can make me feel self-conscious when it comes to my skin 👎
So, when I met up with a friend for coffee last Wednesday, I was taken back when she told me how great my skin looked! 😯
I held back the urge to say:
"Really? I thought my red patches still looked bad?"
...and instead said:
"Thanks, that means a lot to me" 💕
This small compliment had given me a big confidence boost and got me thinking about the hidden power of 'The Compliment'.
Why we find compliments hard to accept
The problem is, we don't want people to think we're conceited, and by being seen to agree with a compliment, we feel as if we're saying, "Yes, you're right – aren't I amazing!"
But this is where we are wrong! 🙅♀️
Deflecting the compliment by contradicting the other person makes them feel bad or embarrassed and may even put them off giving compliments in the future.
The simple answer is practice
Don't respond to a compliment with: This old thing – I've had it for years!
Instead, respond to a compliment with: Thanks, that means a lot to me today!
Think about it, if you told someone they looked good, wouldn't you rather hear: "Thank you, that's made my day"? I know I would 👍
So, next time someone compliments you (even if you secretly don't agree!) don't contradict them; just graciously accept their kindness with a smile and a big "Thank You"!
Could boosting others make you feel good?
Not only does saying 'thanks' boost the givers self-esteem, but it does things for you as well 💗
Giving a genuine compliment spreads positive energy and encourages you to feel good about yourself!
Try it for yourself!
Compliment someone every day for a week. You don't need to fake it (false flattery is easily spotted), and don't give a compliment in the hope to get one back – fishing for compliments is not the idea! 🎣
But we can all find one nice thing to say about someone each day!
And it doesn't have to be about how they look either - it could be anything from, "You're such a great friend" to "You handled that situation brilliantly".
Watch their reaction. See what their response is. I'm pretty sure you'll both end up feeling great! 😁💖
Increase your happiness levels
Who doesn't want a bit more happiness in their every day?
Compliments make us all feel special, acknowledged and well, simply happier people – and if you're happy, chances are the people around you will, in turn, also be happier 💕
When we feel good, we also look good. So, go out there and spread the joy! 🌟
Build stronger bonds
When we pay a friend, colleague or even a stranger a compliment, we are building each other up, which creates confidence, trust and leads to stronger bonds and relationships in life 👍
And guess what…? We're building ourselves up at the same time too!
Compliments can help make new social interactions more comfortable, because, let's face it, we all love being around positive people – it's easier and way more fun 💁♀️✨
Who knows, a new friend may just be a compliment away!
Could you give a compliment today?
How amazing is it to think that we all have it within ourselves to change someone's day by merely saying something positive? 💖
A kind act takes no time, but it can really have a massive impact on that person – maybe they're having a bad day or struggling with confidence issues; whatever it may be, your compliment may be just what they needed to hear today.
A sincere compliment is like a little gift of love. So, don't think twice - give the gift that keeps giving! 🎁🌟